This rule applies to more intimate settings like dates or one-on-one chatter, not when you address a sea of girls at a beach party.
Women love to talk, and they love it more if you're a good listener. Women are about sharing, venting, and the catharsis of self-expression. You need to close your pie hole and give her that freedom. (more…)
People think careers are a great way to stimulate conversation. No they're not! Most people are self-conscious about what they do and say “food logistics engineer” when they're a waitress.
How many times have you had age or weight surface in conversation with women you just met? She says, “I moved here 10 years ago, right after school.” You glance to the side and it's clear you're doing math. She asks if you're trying to guess her age, and you deny it. When they try to get you to play the game, resist.
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Women can smell insincerity like roasted garlic. You don't need to make up lies or be insincere with the woman you're with. Find something to like and tell her. If you can't find something you like, you need a new prospect.
Never compliment something they become conscious of and may change-like their laugh. “I love your laugh” will change the frequency and sound of their laughter. Or worse, they'll laugh at things you say that aren't funny. Stick to fixed characteristics. (more…)
This is critical. When you learn her name, repeat it, memorize it and use it occasionally. Simply say, “Julie? Nice to meet you, Julie, my name is Rob.” Burn the name in your short term memory and toss it in the conversation occasionally.
“Where are you from, Julie?” Then later say, “Excuse me, Julie, I need to use the men's room.” Dale Carnegie said it best 60 years ago: “The sweetest sound to your ears is the sound of your own first name.” (more…)
Before I spend precious time and money with someone, I test the waters with simple, qualifying questions so I don't buy $50 in cocktails and four hours later her boyfriend arrives in a Porsche and whisks her away into the evening.
If I want conversation on an airplane, this is not so important; but if I intend to have late night company with someone I met at a restaurant, these questions are critical. Here are the basic qualifiers. (more…)
What do you do if you had a big night with a woman, and decided she's not a candidate for your next girlfriend? Damage control. (more…)
This isn't about finding the right nickname for your girlfriends; it's about avoiding nicknames for women you just met. A nickname pigeon holes people to a certain story or characteristic, and might touch a nerve if you pick the wrong one.
Here are a few nicknames I've used that worked fine:
Here are a few nicknames that can get you into trouble: (more…)