This is a tough one to discuss because it's so circumstantial. Opening lines often relate to something happening at that moment, so I don't have a set of ten great opening lines. I do suggest the following guidelines: (more…)

You took a business card from a woman you met at a restaurant a few days ago. You call her because you want to take her out, but you're not sure if she's going to say yes. Here's how to close the deal: instead of asking, “What does Thursday look like on your calendar?” ask her when she has a free night in the next week or two. This works because you don't appear anxious, and you avoid an awkward conversation like this: (more…)

When the time is right and you think you should ask for her number, ask for a card instead. “Hey, can I get your number” makes cheese whiz look like real food. You not only sound bad to her, you make others around you grimace at your transparent motives.

If you ask for a card, she may think you're interested in her line of work–sounds like you want company and email information. Asking for a card is professional, not promiscuous. However, once you get her card, you're free to call or email. If you call or email, do it during the day because it shows you think about her in the glowing light of sunshine and not in the wine-induced din of a piano bar. (more…)