Logistics must be simple. As comedian Kip Addotta says, “If I could change the world, I would make everything just around the corner and on the right hand side of the street.”

If you call a girlfriend when you're out having a good time, and you want her to join you, tell her she's only a few minutes away-especially if she's never heard of the place. (more…)

This rule applies to more intimate settings like dates or one-on-one chatter, not when you address a sea of girls at a beach party.

Women love to talk, and they love it more if you're a good listener. Women are about sharing, venting, and the catharsis of self-expression. You need to close your pie hole and give her that freedom. (more…)

“Can I buy you a drink?” is the dumbest of all opening lines. The answer is always yes, and it doesn't mean anything. It doesn't mean she likes you. It doesn't mean she has any interest. It means she's happy to drink your money if that's what you want. (more…)

Women love their birthday. They may shrug it off and complain about aging one full year, but they love their birthday. Some women openly share that they have a birthday week. Some women go out Wednesday through Sunday just to accommodate their friends' schedules and ensure they wring every last drop of celebration out of the occasion. They love the spotlight, and the last thing they want is to be alone. (more…)

This is critical. When you learn her name, repeat it, memorize it and use it occasionally. Simply say, “Julie? Nice to meet you, Julie, my name is Rob.” Burn the name in your short term memory and toss it in the conversation occasionally.

“Where are you from, Julie?” Then later say, “Excuse me, Julie, I need to use the men's room.” Dale Carnegie said it best 60 years ago: “The sweetest sound to your ears is the sound of your own first name.” (more…)

Before I spend precious time and money with someone, I test the waters with simple, qualifying questions so I don't buy $50 in cocktails and four hours later her boyfriend arrives in a Porsche and whisks her away into the evening.

If I want conversation on an airplane, this is not so important; but if I intend to have late night company with someone I met at a restaurant, these questions are critical. Here are the basic qualifiers. (more…)

A Player is a guy who isn't interested in settling down, but enjoys the company of a woman. In an effort to limit emotions for any one woman, he divides his time among other women at movies, dinner or over coffee. In order to achieve this, A Player must be a planner, a visionary, a communicator, a wit and charming.

How many times have you had a good thing going, and then decided to switch gears, invite a few friends, or do anything that interrupts the wonderful momentum you created? The lesson: “Strike When the Iron is Hot”.

I met a nice girl at a restaurant who had to leave to meet other girlfriends at a sushi bar about a mile away. I qualified, listened to her long story about why she hates her roommate, and asked about her reservation at the sushi bar. We got to know each other and I told her “it was a pleasure meeting you, have a great time with your friends”-but I made a mental note. (more…)